How to implement PLAN B or collaborative problem solving.....
Since the last post, you sat down with the ALSUP and identified your child's unsolved problems. Curious about the PLAN B FLOWCHART (I hope), you printed it out and identified 3 unsolved problems and are wondering how to implement the next step on the flow chart; which is, adult taking the lead on Plan B. And guess what? That is the beginning of collaborative problem solving.
Plan B (or collaborative problem solving) begins with 3 (difficult) steps: Empathy, Define the Problem, and the Invitation. You'll want to print out the Plan B Cheat Sheet.
After identifying your child's unsolved problem, you sit down with him/her and begin with the Empathy step. The cheat sheet has some examples and help on how to do this.
Then it's on to DEFINE THE PROBLEM. Here is where you'll want to make sure that both your concerns and the child's concerns are on the table.
The INVITATION STEP is where you will brainstorm solutions that will address the concerns of both parties. Remember, you are looking for solutions that make sure the problem doesn't happen again. A good solution will be realistic (don't set your child up for failure) and mutually satisfactory. The invitation step will end with an agreement to return to Plan B if the solution isn't working.
So that's it! Good luck!
You'll want to watch the videos on Lives in the Balance website. Start with Dr. Greene's overview of Plan B. And look at the videos on Plan B in Action.